The Six Ways We Avoid Our Genuine Emotions

Our emotions are important signals for us. They give us information about ourselves, other people and the world. When we shut ourselves off from these feelings it's as though we've eliminated one of our senses; even worse, in fact. We avoid our feelings for only one reason: because they have painful or upsetting implications. Children...

11k Word Essay : The Dark Side of Being Too Nice

Part One: What does it mean to be "too nice" (and why is it a problem)? Being too nice - otherwise known as people-pleasing - is an overlooked and serious problem today. Unlike other counterproductive behaviours, individuals who engage in it rarely visit their doctor or counselor, saying, “I need help with my compulsive people-pleasing...

confidence in relationships, hurtful-relationships, kind, narcissist, nice, people-pleasing

The Twelve-Step Cure for Helicopter Parenting

It’s spring, and kids are graduating from University and starting their careers.Those young people whose parents raised them to be hard-working, responsible and self-directed are going to be at a huge advantage, compared to those who have helicopter parents or those who’ve studied at schools that act like helicopter parents. Frighteningly,...

Good Parents Give Their Kids These Six Things

Parenting is one of the hardest thing in the world to do. That's why it never hurts to be reminded of a few basic truths. The fact is, children need six things in order to grow up healthy, happy, confident, resilient, and best able to succeed in life: love, guidance, limits,  protection, validation and respect. 1. LOVE: Children...

Helicopter Parents Raise Kids Who Are Unemployable

Helicopter parents are in the news a lot these days. These are the parents who  can't stop hovering around their kids. They practically wrap them in bubble wrap, creating a cohort of young adults who struggle to function in their jobs and in their lives. Helicopter parents think that they're doing what's best for their kids but...

children, family, kids, love, parenting, personal growth, relationship advice, relationships

Is Your Style of Relating Successful or Problematic?

In working with people for over twenty-five years, I've identified five styles of human interaction. Two of them work really well to create positive personal and professional relationships. Two are more problematic. One can go either way. If you want to be happy and successful in your relationships, you're going to have to learn...

The Best Way to Connect With Others? Just Be With Them

It seems that people have become more and more alienated lately. More often than not,  our mode of interaction is transactional, as opposed to empathetic. "Empathetic" and "transactional" are two of the ways that people behave with one-another, and they're quite opposite. The former is about enjoying and appreciating the other...

Six Parenting Traps That Will Turn Your Kid Into a Sociopath

Most parents want only good things for their children. Their actions are based on what they believe will best serve their kids. Unfortunately, there are some mistaken ideas going around that are much more harmful to children than helpful. When parents adopt these mistaken ideas they can take actions that will encourage children...

The Entertainment Industry’s Double Standard Toward Women and Men

It's International Women's Day and I'm celebrating being a woman. I'm also taking the opportunity to vent a bit about an issue that's been bothering me for a while, now. It's about the glaringly different ways that men and women are represented in the entertainment industry. First, let me say that I unequivocally support any grown-up...

On IWD 2017, Know That Feminism is Our Future

It's very strange to me that the notion of feminism currently seems to be equated with man-hating or man-bashing. As a feminist myself, surrounded by many other feminists, it's clear that none of us have the least bit of animosity, contempt or destructive wishes toward men. For feminists the world over, the term identifies those...

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