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How People Pleasing Sabotages Everything
Every day, people try so hard to please others. They bend over backwards for their families, friends, colleagues and bosses. People pleasing always backfires and leads to frustration, resentment and unhappiness. Based on 25 years of experience, Dr. Marcia Sirota dispels the myth that being nice and pleasing to others are how we get ahead in life. Instead, she argues that it is through kindness, that a person can quickly develop closer, more genuine, loving and reciprocal relationships. Sirota explains that kindness comes from a place of taking responsibility for one’s own self-worth rather than through external validation. What follows from loving oneself is more happiness and success, genuine and deeper friendships, greater intimacy in love relationships and higher productivity and career satisfaction. In this keynote/workshop, we will:
- Define what it means to be nice, as opposed to kind
- Explore how people pleasing sabotages everything you’ve worked for
- Examine how people pleasing creates misery, division and conflict
- Discover the link between people pleasing and workplace burnout
- Learn why caring less what others think will lead to them liking you more
- Develop actionable strategies for becoming kind and loving oneself, that lead to a higher purpose, greater confidence and achieving your goals
How Taking Responsibility Builds strong Leaders at Home, School and Work
Society teaches us to point fingers every time trouble comes knocking. When challenges arise, we often experience ourselves as victims of circumstance, rather than empowered individuals with effectiveness and agency. We expect others to come and rescue us or solve our problems without our having to move an inch. The problem with this is that when we lay the blame on everything except our own decisions and actions, we unknowingly stop listening, caring or learning. We stop being accountable for our choices and shun constructive criticism, making us unable to positively transform our circumstances.
Based on more than 25 years of experience, Dr. Marcia Sirota explores the path to success, happiness and well-being that begins with taking personal responsibility. The secret to solving every problem is to take responsibility for your part in creating it. It’s not about self-blame; it’s seeing how the changes you can make will create the best outcomes. Success comes from compassionately facing your mistakes and seeing failure as a learning opportunity. When we stop pointing fingers, we become empowered in all aspects of our life, and arrive at a place of acceptance and inner peace. In this keynote/workshop, we will:
- Define what it means to take personal responsibility
- Discover how you can get everything you want in life
- Explore how to arrive at self-acceptance, self-confidence and inner peace
- Examine how the way that you see problems, mistakes and failure holds you back from success
- Develop actionable strategies for creating success in work, relationships and well-being
How to Manage Over-Entitlement and Succeed at Home and Work
Increasingly, we live in a culture of over-entitlement, where some people have excessive and unreasonable expectations at home, at school and at work. The instant gratification, instant information and always switched-on ethos of today leads some to believe their needs should be met at the drop of a hat. Parents, teachers and supervisors, on the other hand, are overly-permissive, turning a blind eye to unacceptable behaviour and rewarding their children, students or employees when they’ve done nothing to deserve these rewards. Rather than embrace permissiveness and entitlement, we must promote values of personal responsibility, self-reliance, competence and good character. We need to stop ‘passing the buck’ and allowing those who have not mastered the necessary skills to graduate or be promoted to the next level.
Based on more 25 years of experience, Dr. Marcia Sirota show, how in order to win, parents, educators and employers must model to others the behaviour they expect to see. This involves setting a good example, providing feedback, allowing for continuous improvement, being results-focused and setting achievable, win-win goals.
- Define what it means to successfully parent, educate and manage people for win-win outcomes.
- Discover how hard work, dedication and humility lead to happiness and success.
- Explore key tenets around self-confidence, competence and character.
- Learn how to manage and meet expectations at home, in the classroom and at work.
- Explore how a permissive attitude leads to laziness and over-entitlement, whereas high expectations combined with support and guidance lead to excellence.
- Develop actionable strategies for creating success at home, at school and in the workplace.
How to Live a Truly Connected Life
We live in a changing world where most people are hyper-connected digitally and rarely have alone time. While we are constantly connected through our devices, so many of us feel empty, lonely and alienated. We live a life devoid of true belonging or meaning, whether at home, school or at work. The consequence of living a life without meaning, connection or community is costly for workplaces, schools and families. Many people fall into addictions and compulsive behaviours that further disconnect and alienate them and could lead to a complete breakdown.
Based on more than 25 years in the field, Dr. Marcia Sirota explores what it means to reconnect with the self and other people in any environment.
We need to awaken to the importance of living more deeply with meaning, connection and self-care, so that our communities also grow and prosper. Stronger communities lead to happier, balanced and successful individuals who then thrive in their schools, families and organizations.
In this keynote/workshop, we will:
- Define what it means to be “connected.”
- Discover how to connect to yourself.
- Explore how families can teach their children ways to connect.
- Demonstrate how adults can become more connected to friends, colleagues and their community.
- Develop actionable strategies for creating thriving family, social and workplace communities.
How to Bounce Back to Your Best Self … Best Life
Everyone wants to be happy, healthy and successful. They want fulfillment, especially in love, with family and at work. Most people experience significant obstacles along the way. People suffer from a lack of confidence, low self-esteem. They endure frequent pangs of anxiety or bouts of depression. Some people have difficulties with interpersonal relationships, school or their career, and others struggle with addiction.
After more than 25 years as a practicing psychotherapist, Dr. Marcia Sirota has identified the link between problematic experiences during childhood and difficulties later in adult life. Dr. Sirota consequently developed a set of simple and effective tools that empower people to make positive transformations and achieve greater happiness, fulfillment and success in all aspects of their lives.
In this keynote/workshop, we will:
- Gain perspective on family-of-origin issues, and put childhood difficulties behind you
- Affirm your unique attributes, talents and strengths, so you can put your best foot forward in every situation
- Reclaim your passions, goals and dreams, so you can create the life you’re meant to live
- Empower you to overcome any obstacles to your inner peace, freedom, happiness and success
- Learn simple, effective tools to boost your self-confidence, self-compassion and resilience
- Learn to let go of your barriers to creating meaningful and lasting relationships
- Develop attitudes, strategies and habits to be your very best and live your best life
How to Get Along Better and Have Great Relationships
We communicate with others every day, at home, work, school and in our leisure activities. Most people take communication for granted. They don’t realize the positive impact that getting along with others has on every aspect of their life.
Studies show that emotional intelligence, or “people skills,” define our success more than simply ability or intelligence.
According to Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ:
“People who are emotionally adept — who know and manage their feelings well, and who read and deal effectively with other people’s feelings — are at an advantage in any domain in life, whether in romance and intimate relationships or picking up the unspoken rules that govern success in organizational politics.”
Today, executives, managers and employees want to get along better and foster healthy work environments. Friends and family members want more satisfying and authentic relationships that are based on mutual respect.
In this keynote/workshop, we will:
- Develop simple tools to enable you to get along better with anyone
- Learn to identify difficult or toxic individuals at school and at work
- Discover effective techniques to cope more effectively with challenging people at school and work
- Learn how to become a trusted person in your workplace, without being a people-pleaser
- Develop powerful strategies for tactfully managing difficult individuals in your workplace
How to Maximize Your Creative Potential for Success in Work and Life
Creativity is an essential aspect of success, whether it’s being artistic or engaging in creative problem-solving. The most successful people in any walk of life are those who can access their full creative potential. When we harness our creative energy, we can become an unstoppable force in our career. The truth is that every person, including you, is creative. Most people have yet to discover and fulfill their creative potential.
In this keynote/workshop, we:
- Explore what it means to be “creative” and learn how to “think outside the box”
- Discover your own, unique creative abilities and strengths
- Learn simple, effective tools for releasing your full creative potential
- See how you can incorporate creative problem-solving into the challenges you face at work
- Learn how you can use your creativity to become brilliantly successful at work
On Addictions: How to make today the last day you overeat
Do you currently struggle with overeating? Did you eat more than you should have, last night? Whether it’s yourself, a loved one, a friend or a colleague, someone you know is stuggling, right now, with overeating.
With her more than 25 years of clinical experience, Dr. Marcia Sirota offers a simple, straightforward plan to conquer your overeating problem and any other addictions you might be struggling with. In her talk, she debunks the myths about addiction and highlights a plan for full recovery that’s derived from her well researched book, Emotional Overeating: Know the Triggers, Heal Your Mind and Never Diet Again.
Dr. Sirota takes you on a journey that will show you how to overcome your problem with emotional overeating without dieting or restricting your intake. Imagine an addiction-free existence! Imagine not worrying ever again about fighting your cravings, one day a time.
In this keynote/workshop, you will:
- Learn that addiction is not a disease, but rather, a misguided attempt at resolving your key emotional issues
- Follow a “four-pronged approach” to curing your addiction and debunking the twelve-step model for treating addiction
- Understand why going on a diet will lead you to gain weight and receive simple, practical tools to help you lose weight without ever having to diet, again
- Identify the roots of your addiction(s) and learn easy-to-use tools to conquer each one of them.
- Whether a manager, human resource professional or trainer, you’ll discover a new and effective way to deal with addiction in the workplace. You can start addressing issues of wellness, productivity and “presenteeism.”
How Resolving Family Turbulence Leads to Optimal Workplace Outcomes
Who is in your family? Everyone comes from a family. Every family has its share of problems. Whether you have children, elderly parents, sibling or other relatives, sometimes these people whom you cherish can give you grief. Sometimes, they ask for too much and make conversations harder than they should be.
Dr. Marcia Sirota uses her more than two decades of experience as psychiatrist to deconstruct, evaluate and help you understand your complex family dynamics.
You may be part of the “sandwich generation; you may be encountering sibling rivalry and conflict. Your aging parents may need more help than you can easily offer them. Your child may need more time from you and be more demanding than your limited energy can cope with.
If this sounds familiar, isn’t it time you learned simple, new coping strategies to successfully manage and thrive in each of your relationships?
In this keynote/workshop, we will:
- Explore the challenges associated with conflicted relationships with older parents, younger children or siblings
- Demonstrate effective ways to create more balance between your work life and family life
- Develop strategies to address complex and challenging sibling relationships
- Learn how to cope with unsupportive relationships with parents, especially when you aren’t getting along
- Offer simple and powerful strategies that enable you to skillfully navigate any challenging family relationship
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Marcia combines the real life experience of her personal stories with her credibility as a board-certified psychiatrist to bring real messages of personal responsibility, human connectedness and positive relationships to her audiences, resulting in an enjoyable and valuable experience.Michel Neray, Founder and Producer of momondays
Marcia has a flair for igniting the imagination of her audiences with her thoughtful, funny and direct stories. These compelling stories help people release their mental blocks and put their best foot forward at home and at work.
Chris Henry, Founder and CEO, craftsight iConcierge
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