Where do genuine self-love and self-acceptance come from? We get these things by soaking up all the affirmation our parents give us when we’re little. Also, our parents model their good self-worth to us. What happens, though, if our parents didn’t give us what we needed? Are we doomed to forever feeling inadequate or unworthy […]
Intellect and emotional intelligence are very different things. The former is the cognitive ability to synthesize and analyze data; to problem-solve and make associations based on available information. The latter is a set of innate and learned skills which facilitate relationships and enable a person to negotiate more easily through all areas of life. Intellect […]
Oprah Winfrey is an admirable woman. She’s done so much for so many, and is an incredible role model to millions of people. She’s beautiful, successful, intelligent, caring and an inspiration to us all, which is why her ongoing struggle with her weight is so saddening. She has access to the very best trainers, nutritionists, […]
You probably know at least one woman who is really, really nice. She’s someone always tries to make everyone happy. Her way of dealing with misunderstandings is to make every effort to placate the other person. You’ve probably also seen people taking advantage of this woman’s eagerness to please. Because she ‘s unwilling to engage […]
Some people are extremely neat, while others tend to accumulate a bit of clutter. Some people live in filth and don’t seem to notice. Then there’s the hoarder, whose possessions pile up until their home is a fire and health hazard. What goes on in the minds of very messy people? I think that they […]
The 12-step program is the main model currently used for the treatment of addiction If you look at the statistics, however, the actual success rate is dismally low; perhaps 15% long-term. Sadly, no-one has developed an alternative to the program, so this ineffective means of treating addiction remains the gold standard. The program fails for […]
Relationships can tolerate a reasonable amount of stress. No-one is perfect or should be expected to be. There are ten specific behaviors, however, which are highly likely to ruin your relationship if you engage in them. You could call them “deal-breakers.” Every person has within their psyche a mature, rational, loving adult identity and a […]
Some folks find it especially difficult to see the bad in others. They need to believe that the people in their lives are good and kind. They can’t imagine that someone they love or respect would be capable of cruelty, manipulation or thoughtlessness. These individuals value qualities such as honesty, integrity and decency; mistakenly believing […]
The word “confrontation,” makes some of us very uncomfortable. When we contemplate talking to a friend about something they did that upset us, we’re filled with dread. We believe that confrontation is a recipe for disaster but in reality, the opposite is true. Sharing our concerns with our friends can actually improve our relationships, while […]
I’ve been thinking about why people are so crazy about the TV show Mad Men, lately. True, the writing is darkly intelligent, the cast effortlessly fits into their suave costumes and characters, and the décor perfectly evokes the time and place. Still, I sense that it’s some other, ineffable quality that has so captured our […]
