The new Bachelor has been announced. His name is Clayton and I’m not the only one disappointed by the choice. In fact, on the After the Final Rose show for Bachelorette, Michelle, the host—Kaytlin—sat Clayton down and read aloud some of the tweets showing how people were feeling about him.
I’ve been enjoying watching And Just Like That, the latest iteration of the Sex and the City franchise. There’s a lot to think about with this new show, including its fresh—and much-needed—take on gender and race, as well as what it means to be a middle-aged woman trying to live her best life in our misogynistic, ageist society. One of the themes they’ve brought up is Miranda’s problem with alcohol.
I was about to write this article on apathy, but then I couldn’t be bothered… Okay, bad joke. But that’s the thing about apathy. It’s a state of indifference, regardless of what’s going on, and aside from procrastinating on blogging, it can lead to some rather unpleasant consequences. While it’s not good to worry too much about everything, it’s equally problematic to care about nothing. Apathy is not a healthy alternative to being neurotic.
I was interviewed recently by Devon Peacock of CFPL London, Ontario. This conversation got me thinking about all the different ways that trauma can affect us, including one surprisingly positive outcome, which is that trauma can lead to a deepening of our empathy and compassion.
I got upset when I read online about the protests at Ontario hospitals, in which people in the crowd were shouting slurs at the medical staff, and calling the doctors and nurses, “murderers.”
As the new Omicron variant is starting to show up in Canada and in other parts of the world, some people in Ontario are re-thinking their holiday plans. The Federal government is scrambling to create new travel restrictions, hoping to slow down the spread, and in Quebec, they’ve just posted a daily Covid-19 case count of almost 1200, following the largest one-day jump in the past seven months.
I’ve noticed that the pandemic has affected different types of people in very different ways. In particular, how after many months of social isolation, introverts and extroverts demonstrate suffering and recovery in their own unique ways.
People can shut down their emotions in order to protect themselves from their pain, but this defense mechanism has unintended consequences.
We seek resolution because we want to be okay after a relationship didn’t go the way we hoped. We feel the need to understand what happened, or to hear the other person apologize for their actions.
Recently, I read a blog about how to get back at a narcissist, and it reminded me of how many times people have asked me about how to affect a narcissist in some way. I’ve been asked how you might make a narcissist feel jealous, or weak, or frightened; how to hurt them, or how to get them to feel sorry.
